Why am I still anxious if I am a Christian? This is a deeply honest question, and it deserves more than a quick verse or a spiritual cliché.

Certain events in our lives can change the ways we perceive the world and interact with others. Trauma can rob us of our present joy and future hope, as it may be challenging to envision a positive life ahead - it can make you feel constantly on edge, emotionally numb, or checked out.   

You may be surrounded by holiday cheer right now, but perhaps, like the Grinch, the happiness around you is in stark contrast to the feeling of discontent on the inside. For many couples, the holidays can magnify the pain of unresolved conflict. Instead of laughter around the table, you might notice arguments springing from small disappointments or the tension of past wounds overshadowing family celebrations. In homes that are meant to reflect warmth and love, you may feel more alone than ever—longing for feelings of closeness and safety that seem out of reach.

It’s a question many quietly carry: “How do I stay close to God when I feel alone—even in my faith?” Maybe you say the prayers, read the familiar verses, and show up at church. Yet, deep down, there’s still a sense that something is missing. This silent longing is more common than most realize, and at its core, it is a question about attachment—our bond not just with the people around us, but with the God who made us.